On Expectations

A lot of suffering in life comes from things failing to meet our expectations.

These days, most people expect to have things like six figure salaries, big weddings, and expensive homes. If they don’t get what they want, they think they’re not good enough, or they’re a failure compared to everyone else’s Instagram-worthy lives.

So what if you drive a nice car, the real question is are you a good person? Who cares what you wear, do you feel like a whole person without all of your possessions? Even though you can’t control people’s feelings and actions, are you happy with yourself?

Here’s the hard truth. In our modern world, our expectations are too high, too materialistic, and are almost always things we cannot control. It’s a recipe for constant disappointment.

But what if I told you there’s a switch you can flip to change it all. What if instead of expecting so much from life, we learn to appreciate it more? 

Have you ever lived a day without electricity or running water? If you had to, when it came back would you be bemoaning that it went off, or would you be happy that it was back?

What about things like good health, democratic rights, the internet, a loving family, a roof over your head, and enough food to eat so you never go hungry?

A lot of the time it takes losing something to appreciate it. Ironically, by the time it’s gone, you can’t really be grateful for having it.

Minimalism isn’t just about decluttering, it’s about learning to lower your materialistic expectations in life and being more grateful for the things you do have. That’s a recipe for happiness.

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