There is a lot that I owe to my parents for everything they’ve done for me. For Mother’s Day this year, I wrote an appreciation post (which you can read here via Minimal Student).
It’s good for me to reflect on topics like this because it makes me think about how far we’ve come as a family.
As I’ve grown older and have developed more of an equal relationship with my parents as a fellow adult — as opposed to having a childish idolisation of them— I’ve come realise that they have flaws just like anyone else.
We have our disagreements about things, and sometimes I get (very) frustrated with them but I should try to remember where they come from. It was a completely different world to mine, and they had to work extremely hard to keep up with it all.
My parents were never the affectionate kind. They always showed their love by doing things for me and my siblings. They loved us because they looked after us, and they looked after us because they loved us. I didn’t realise how much of an effect that had on me until I was in a long term relationship of my own and found myself doing the same for my partner.
As I look to a future where they are getting older, and I’ll soon be having children of my own, I find myself hoping that this next phase in our relationship is a fulfilling one. The years of hard labour are behind us now, but that doesn’t mean the hard work is over. Even from here I can see there’ll be other obstacles ahead of us, but as long as we stick together we’ll face them together as a family.